IT'S been reported in the Sun Bizarre column that rocker Paolo Nutini’s won back ex-girlfriend Amber Anderson. Not that Paolo wasted time drafting romantic lyrics for the stunning model. Nope, he simply let her know that life was sh*t without her.
It’s reported things fizzled out between them in March. Then he realised he could be a better man, rewind things with her, and he had one last request – come back to me (got to love a Paolo song title or three!).#
If you’re going all ‘Paolo’ about your ex, wishing things hadn’t finished, there’s almost always hope. From sizzling seduction to tea-and-sympathy, you might turn your ex into your next big thing. Here are six things you must to do win them back.
Your caring, sharing side
Especially if your breakup was pretty nasty (but even if it wasn’t), show your caring side. Heard they’ve had a hard time at work? Or their mum’s ill? Message asking if you can help. Be genuine, show them all’s forgotten and you’re there for them.
You’re someone they share a history with. And who understands their situation. So they’ll hopefully appreciate your sympathy and support.
Show them what they’re missing
You hear they’re going to the same party, club-night, or pub you’re going to. So dress to thrill. Look your best and appear confident (even if you fake it to make it). Basically look like someone they want to get back with!
Don’t be shy
If you get chatting, suggest a hook-up. The worst they can say is no and you’ve got your answer. If it’s a yes, go for it, choosing somewhere subtle and romantic.
Start turning up the flirt-factor. Don’t make it all about the bad times of the breakup. Let them know things can be fun and flirty between you again.
Turn up the heat
Things seem pretty good, and your ex is flirting back. In fact like the Nelly lyrics “it’s getting hot in here” for you two. Then why not go for some ex-sex? But this time it’s no holds barred.
Try some new tricks on them. Mix-up positions – start in Doggy style with him behind. Then turnover into Missionary. But don’t stop there, she can go on top for Cowgirl.
Take it further and show them you’ve become an oral-loving sex god or goddess. Swirl, lick and suck ‘til they can’t take any more. Having a blast in bed will blast away the bad breakup memories.
Ringing in the changes
You’ve rekindled the lust. Now how about showing the thing that broke you up can be changed? Maybe you’d been neglectful – let them know you understand that now. Or were you demanding? Tell them how you’ve softened that side of your nature.
The best way to get them back is showing you can put right what went wrong.
Don’t be a desperate Dan or Debbie
Be patient. If when you first try flirting, they don’t bite, back off for a bit. If when you offer support or help, they don’t take it, there’ll be another time to do so.
The worst thing you can do is act desperate, repeatedly trying to flirt. Or repeatedly contacting them checking they’re okay. It’s never a good look and might remind them why you broke up.
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