DEAR DEIDRE: I WENT home with a woman I met in a club. When she pulled off her clothes I was staggered to see that “she” had  all the male goods down below.

It was a massive surprise but I still had a great time in bed.

I’m a man of 46 and I’ve always been straight. I was married for 24 years before getting divorced but I never had any complaints, at least not about my performance in bed.

An old mate got in touch and suggested we have a night out. We started off in a pub in the town and then he suggested this gay club he knows.

I wasn’t keen but he told me that people of all kinds turned up and there’s a really great atmosphere there.

I agreed and I had to admit he was right. The whole place was buzzing, the music was great and the vibe was amazing. I started really enjoying myself.

This girl started dancing with me. She looked about 35 with a beautiful smile and huge come-to-bed eyes. Then she asked me to buy her a drink and I knew I was in with a chance.

The girl asked me back to her flat — my mate had already gone home. We jumped in a cab and as soon as we got through her door she was pulling my clothes off and pushing me down on her bed.

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She pulled down her undies and that’s when I saw what she had underneath. She was hung like a donkey but made me feel king of the world.

She woke me the next morning and gave me a kiss and a cup of tea. We swapped numbers and then I went home.

Now she texts all the time and says, “Let’s meet again.”

I’m tempted, but what does that say about me? After all these years straight, am I now turning gay?

DEIDRE SAYS: It isn’t as simple as that. Our sexual orientation is more fluid than many believe.

It’s not unusual for a man or a woman who has long identified as straight to later find love with a same-sex partner.

In this case you were attracted to someone apparently female but whom you later discovered had male genitalia – I’m guessing either a cross-dresser or transsexual.

It was, perhaps, the surprise and confusion you felt that proved, at least in part, such a turn-on for you.

If you’re planning on taking it further, why not give it a go? As with any new partner, just take it a step at a time and do practise safe sex.

My e-leaflet Bisexual Worries can help and you can find a safe place to talk this all through by contacting Switchboard LGBT+ who are there for anyone with worries about their sexuality or gender identity (switchboard.lgbt, 0300 330 0630).

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