Mother is branded ‘rude and fussy’ for REFUSING to join family dinners cooked by her vegetarian daughter because there’s no meat – but do YOU agree?
- Woman blasted her mother for refusing to eat vegetarian meals when she visits
- British woman posted on Mumsnet, said she has cut down on meat due to health
- Many responses argued people are entitled to choose what they want to eat
A woman has sparked a debate about cooking for guests, after revealing that her mother refuses to join her family for dinner if the meal doesn’t contain meat.
Writing anonymously on UK online forum Mumsnet, the woman explained her mother expects every dish to contain meat – despite knowing that she predominantly eats vegetarian meals for health reasons.
Kicking off the discussion, she said that her mother refuses to eat meals including cheese and onion omelettes and Halloumi fajitas, unless there is meat added.
Responses to the post were divided among some who argued if it’s ‘fair for dinner guests to dictate the menu’, while others reasoned that she was being ‘fussy and rude’.
British woman sparked a discussion on Mumsnet, about cooking meals based on requests from dinner guests (file image)
The woman explained that her mother refuses to eat dinner with her family, unless the dishes contain meat
Venting her frustration, the woman wrote: ‘I do not call myself vegetarian but I eat meat rarely for health reasons (bowel cancer is common in the family), but I am happy to prepare it as my DH (dear husband) eats meat, but enjoys meat-free meals around four times a week.
‘DC (dear children) also eat meat free around four times a week. My siblings and their partners are also part-time vegetarians and pre-covid we all enjoyed getting together for meat free feats.
‘When DM (dear mother) comes over, she refuses to eat anything without meat. Butternut squash soup? Needs bacon. Halloumi fajitas? Needs beef.
‘Goats cheese and onion quiche omelette? Needs chicken. Plowmans salad? Needs ham. AIBU to think ff one meal without meat won’t kill you!’
A stream of responses blasted the woman, arguing her mother is entitled to prefer eating meat in her meals.
One person wrote: ‘One meal without meat won’t kill you, but you can’t tell other people what to eat. Each to their own and all that.’
Another said: ‘Sadly I’m with your mother! I think a lot of things can be improved with abit of chorizo. Tried veggie alternatives but just not the same.’
A stream of responses blasted the woman, arguing her mother is entitled to have a preference and said they also prefer meat dishes
However, others agreed with the woman and argued dinner guests shouldn’t dictate the meal that is served.
‘I’m with you, OP! I am by no mean vegetarian, but sometimes it’s frustrates me if you’re the one cooking. It’s a bit like saying ‘it’s not a meal without rice/ potatoes’. Very odd and also very fussy,’ wrote one.
Another said: ‘Well in the scenarios you are describing it is just rude because if you are at someone’s house for a meal you eat what you are given, unless dietary restrictions are important. I can’t imagine going to someone’s house and telling them how to improve their cooking. What people cook for themselves in their own house or order in a restaurant is up to them.’
A third added: ‘People who can’t have one meal that isn’t their usual preference annoy me. Not just with veggie meals but with anything food related. Not every meal has to be your favourite, most people surely would compromise with their family and friends and not insist that they get their preference every single time.
‘We tend to go to a vegan place every once in a while so the vegans/veggies in my social group get to have a menu where they can pick anything from it. And vice versa they will happily go to a restaurant that may only have one or two options for them because that’s what you do. You compromise.’
Others said they agree with the woman, claiming it’s rude to dictate what should be cooked when you’re invited to dinner
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